You’ll recall a little over a week ago, I spoke of a book I’m reading and I encouraged all of you out there to pick it up as well. It’s titled “52 Things Kids Need From a Mom” by Angela Thomas. As I stated, it’s an easy read and separated out to be able to read a chapter a week, with each chapter really only being about five pages long. Now, if I had been on schedule (which I’ve learned can be quite difficult once you become a mom) then I would have posted a blog about the second chapter on Friday. Of course, last week wasn’t the best week. I was sick, my child was sick, we had some snow, and my husband and I were eager for a date night. Needless to say, posting a blog on my weekly reading took a back seat, but now I’m back at least on this topic.
Chapter 2 is entitled: “Kids Need Their Mom…To Never Stop Touching Them.” Being a part of our sometimes warped society, I immediately went into a not so happy place in my mind when I read the chapter title. I had to remind myself that this is a Christian book written by a Christian woman who would never encourage any perverse ways of “touching” your children. With that frame of mind now accomplished, I set about to read the chapter and I have to say, I find myself touching Davey more and more everyday.
Much like Ms. Thomas, we have affection in our home. My husband and I love to hug each other, we hold hands (a lot of times just walking through a parking lot) and we both dote and love on our son. He is our treasure, our gift from God and I can’t stop touching him and telling him how much I love him. Over time, said touching can diminish. It does a lot in marriages and it’s something that my husband and I must be conscience about. We have to remind ourselves to not be complacent and to touch each other. The power of the human touch is a magical thing. Fortunately, at this point, we don’t have to remind ourselves to touch Davey. It just seems to come with the territory when having a baby.
“To touch someone can communicate a million things,” Ms. Thomas says and she’s right. I think we lose all sense of what our touch can really mean to a child. It can bring forth feelings of love, home, safety, comfort, and acceptance just to name a few. Isn’t your child worth receiving those feelings? How often do you touch your children? How often do you hug them, tousle their hair, kiss their foreheads, wiggle their toes? It seems like such a small and almost effortless thing to do, but it’s worth more than can be quantified.
Ms. Thomas puts in best when closing this chapter she states, “Never stop touching them. The gift of your enduring affection will become one of the greatest gifts you ever give to their souls.”
So, I ask all of you who are parents out there and even those of you who aren’t, will you please touch your loved one tonight? Never forget the power of YOUR touch and what it can mean to someone, especially the smallest ones in our lives.
As a bit of inspiration, here’s a picture of one of my first touches which just happens to be a hug from my beautiful bundle of joy: