Day: February 6, 2013

Push Presents

On By Doser3In Dreaming of Mommyhood - General1 Comment

A quick survey….

How many of you have received a “Push Present” from your significant other at the birth of your child?

For those of you who did receive, what was it?

I read an article yesterday about Push Presents.   I’d heard of them before, but hadn’t really put much thought into them.  For those of you unaware of what they are, they’re gifts presented to you by your significant other at the birth of your child.

I don’t want this post to be judgemental and condemning of those who have participated in this little ritual, but I really don’t understand it.   Of course, it’s all about the individuals, but I understand there are some women out there who actually EXPECT to receive some sort of trinket once they’ve pushed out the baby.   Shouldn’t your baby itself be the best present ever?

I spoke with my mom and dad about this and they looked at each other and then looked back at me and told me this was typical of my generation, expecting something for pushing out a baby.   Whoa!  Whoa! Whoa!  I told them.   Don’t automatically assume I agree with it.

Then I told my husband about it and he looked genuinely concerned that he had screwed up at the birth of our child since he only got me flowers.   I soothed him and explained that I wasn’t asking because i was expecting him to get me a gift.  I was just curious as to his take on it.   He said if I wanted a present he would get it for me.   I don’t need a present.  I have our son.   Besides, I didn’t push, I had a c-section, which leads to another question…should there be a bigger present for those of us who go through c-sections?

I’m just curious as to your thoughts on this.

Oh, by the way, here’s the gift I received….

meanddavey

See my smile?   You know it’s the best gift I could have received.

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Considering Baby #2? Some Added Information

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First, let me take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you who steal a few moments out of your days to read my blog.   I truly appreciate it more than words can describe.   It’s been my lifelong dream to write and to have people read what I write.    So, again I extend a heartfelt “Thank You”.

Last week, I blogged about my concerns with having Baby #2.   I received a lot of response both on this blog as well as from those of you whom I run into out in public.   Your encouraging words and thoughtful advice were much appreciated, but I found myself still wondering if I was ready or not.

Recently, I’ve come across a couple of articles with the exact same topic.   I thought it beneficial, especially to others of you who may be thinking the same thing as myself, to post the links to those blogs and articles on this site.

I consider myself to be a social media addcit, perhaps not as much as some of my friends, but still in my down time or while I’m on the treadmill at the gym, I’m perusing Flipboard on my iPad.   I follow a lot of mother blogs on Twitter and receive emails from a few of the sites I’m subscribed to.   They’re excellent for coming up with ideas to blog about, but they’re also encouraging because they help me to see that a lot of my thoughts and feelings are being shared by many other women throughout the world.

The first link I would like for you all to take a look at actually comes from The Wall Street Journal.   It’s a very short article, but it’s discussing the toll it takes on a parent to become, well, a parent.

http://blogs.wsj.com/juggle/2013/02/05/to-make-another-baby-or-not/

The second link I would like for you to take a look at comes from one of my favorite sites.  TheBump.com is a product of the same creators as TheKnot.com.   Where TheKnot.com is catered to couples who are tying the knot, TheBump.com is for those who are becoming parents and those who are seasoned pros at it.   If you are a mother or thinking of becoming a mother, please go to TheBump.com and subsribe to their site.   They come out with new information daily.   Some of it seems a bit off the wall to me, but other times it seems to strike a nerve as it seems to be catering directly to me.

This particular article took the time to compile responses from a lot of readers who are either thinking about having another baby or who have perhaps already crossed that bridge.  Some of the responses are quite humorous.

http://pregnant.thebump.com/new-mom-new-dad/your-life/articles/signs-youre-ready-for-another-baby.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&cm_cat=Newsletter&cm_pla=Parent&cm_ite=February%2006,%202013&MsdVisit=1

And just as a little side note, I decided to rip off the band aid and my husband and I are now trying for Number 2.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!