When I first became a stay at home mom, I immediately began taking Davey to our local library. I wanted to have interaction with other adults and for Davey to have interaction with other children. It was a wonderful experience as it allowed me the opportunity to meet other stay at home moms, and we even formed a playgroup that met weekly outside of the library. It was an absolutely wonderful thing.
As with most things in life, people grow (children more specifically) and responsibilities become more and more burdensome. Our playgroup fizzled apart after about a year when moms were having other babies and unable to attend or were moving, as was the case with two of the moms. It was a sad day for me as this became such a wonderful thing for both Davey and me.
With the introduction of Henry into our lives, I found it hard to maintain our once hectic schedules and I stopped taking Davey to the library. I soothed my guilt by saying that he was enrolled in a Mother’s Morning Out program and that was plenty of social interaction for him, but by doing that I neglected to let Henry have his own thing. I didn’t take Henry to the story time at the library because it was geared for little ones (his age) and met on the days when Davey wasn’t at Mother’s Morning Out which meant he would be with us and thereby bored with the baby stuff. So, Henry’s social interaction fell to the wayside. I firmly believe that my lack of getting him involved with programs the way I did with Davey is the reason he’s so clingy to me when he attends the same Mother’s Morning Out program Davey did.
Yesterday, I decided to brave the elements…not the cold, but the “elements” of taking two boys to a story time at the library. I hemmed and hawed about it. I’ve gotten into my own routine, my own comfort level, but I need to step out of that and step out of it quick for Henry’s sake. The story time consisted of books about fire trucks and fire safety. There were even firemen and fire trucks for the boys to explore.
As soon as I walked into that same room of previous years’ story times, I had an immediate twinge in my stomach, twinge of regret as I didn’t know how my two boys were going to react. When I originally began story time, Davey was a free spirit. He was the child who never say with his mother, was always running around, liked to sing the loudest, touch everything, climb on other mommies, and just not focus at all. He was the child who refused to sit still. I was always jealous of the other moms. I would come home and tell my husband how Davey would run around, how I felt he was getting nothing from story time, and how frustrating it was for me. Henry is becoming the same way, but Davey? Well, let’s just say this mommy was pleasantly surprised at how well her big boy is growing.
Davey immediately sat down in my lap, eagerly listening to stories and rhymes. Henry? Well, he was a Davey of years past. He ran around, screamed, tried to take sippy cups, climbed on chairs, took books. He was my terror, the one who would not allow me to enjoy the program with all the other moms. Davey; however, decided to join the circle of other kids. He sat criss cross apple sauce the entire time. He sang the songs, listened intently to the stories, and even participated in the “stop, drop, and roll” with the firemen. If I hadn’t been chasing after Henry and trying to quarantine him, I’m likely to have sat in the room, mouth agape at the astonishment of how much my oldest has grown. He can sit quietly, albeit for just a short time, but he can do it.
As I sat discussing the days events with my husband, he remarked, “remember how you never thought Davey would sit still?” Yes, I do remember that. I suppose that since I survived Davey and his terrible twos, then I’m capable of doing the same with Henry. Maybe in two more years, I’ll be amazed at his ability to sit criss cross apple sauce as well.