It’s a motto used by athletes and intellectuals all across the board. Celebrities use it, common folk use it, politicians use it. Once upon a time, I even used it. These days, I don’t know how much stock I actually put into the words. I’m getting older, a lot less bolder, and I just want to make sure that I can survive the raising of my youngest child, regardless of who’s the fittest.
Davey has become a lot easier these days. He sasses me more than I’d like, but he’s also settling down more and becoming a bit of an asset to me (if children can be considered that). He helps out more, is able to watch a television show and even most of a movie, thereby allowing me some downtime or the much needed chance to get some chores done. He understands his chores and because I’ve chosen them wisely, he actually enjoys doing them.
I can take him places, football games, museums, restaurants, and not be too terribly concerned about either not enjoying myself or management kicking us out. It’s been a long ride to get us to this place, a lot of heart aches and head aches, but we’re there. Looking back, I never thought it would happen. So, I can say I have at least survived my oldest son’s terrible twos. Whew! Henry? Well, he’s a different story.
I found myself feeling as if I were having a Mommy Dearest moment the other day. I came downstairs to find the 1000 piece puzzle I’ve been working (yes, I work puzzles, they’re fun and relaxing, while also stimulating) demolished and on the floor. I snapped. I got so mad, I wanted to punch a hole in the wall. I wanted to scream at the top of my lungs. I wanted to punish whoever did it. I almost wanted to take a wire hanger to someone, but I didn’t. I did stomp around, interrogate both of my boys (although I knew who was the culprit) and then I threatened to take away all of their toys. I made them clean up and all the while I was seething inside, the pressure mounting and a pain began forming in my left chest and I felt like I couldn’t breathe. Dear God, was I having a heart attack, or coming near to it, all over a puzzle? Nah, I think it was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Henry. Yes, Henry is the one these days who’s bringing me to the brink of death. Henry is devious, strong willed, independent, and doesn’t seem to consider any consequences with his actions. I’m aware he’s not yet two, but he’s very smart for a two year old, much smarter than Davey at times, a feat I didn’t think possible.
Henry is entering his terrible twos, which if I remember correctly means I have at least another two years of this behavior. TWO YEARS! I don’t know if I’m fit, mentally or physically, to survive. I genuinely believe he will take me down, he will destroy me piece by piece, eroding away my armor, until I’m completely naked and vulnerable, where he’ll then deliver the knife to the heart. Maybe I’m a bit melodramatic, but I really think Henry will be the death of me.
He’s adventurous, has zero fear, doesn’t listen (likes to run towards the road, regardless of how many times I’ve said “no”) and believes anything his four year old brother can do, he can do it better. I’m going to die. I am literally going to go into an early grave with this child if I don’t learn how to relax. My problem, though, is that I’m not thinking on the level of an almost two year old, or even a four year old for that matter. I’m assuming, falsely I might add, that these boys are on my level. I’m not coming down to theirs, and therein, my friends, lies the problem. I find myself every night saying these words, “I just don’t understand.”
So what if the fence is colored with chalk, it’ll wash off. So what if my puzzle is destroyed, it can be put back together. So what if Henry threw my wallet in the trash can at the museum, it was recovered, albeit a half an hour later. That third thing did happen, by the way. So what if he’s not eating his food, throwing it across the room, he’s obviously not starving. So what if he instigates half of the fights with his older brother, he’ll learn not to mess with a bull or that those horns will hook. So what if he’s pulling poop out of his diaper and wiping on walls? So what! Those are the words I should be saying to myself every day. He is only going to be this age for a while and then all new headaches will start. Sigh. I don’t think that thought is really helping my cause as I’m sitting here at 4 am on a Friday morning writing a blog.
The only thing that even remotely makes me smile about the idea of if Henry puts me into an early grave, is knowing that my husband will no longer have a buffer. He’ll have to deal with these boys on his own. He’ll have to suffer through my torture. I’m not thinking nicely, shame on me. I wonder where Henry gets his devious nature? Hmmm.
Happy Friday, y’all!